The Will to Win (Part 9)

9. GIVE UP THE WAY IT IS TO HAVE IT THE WAY YOU WANT IT: People have told me, "they have read the books, gone to the seminars, and done it all but it is so difficult to change". It is not difficult to change and when it becomes more difficult to put up with the excuses and self destructive behavior then you will change.

What the real truth is here, is when you are willing to give up suffering, you can get anything you want out of life. When you are sick and tired of being sick and tired, when you've had enough of not having enough then that is the day you will turn your life around...but, most people must wait until their back is up against the wall before they are willing to make a change in their life. If you want to give up something that will get you on the road to change and have it happen quickly...then give up the notion that it takes a LONG TIME to change.

People pay huge amounts of money to go to self improvement seminars, they ask their doctor's should I change my life, should I go to a 'shrink' ...actually I would say no, that is for hemorrhoids and they are working on the wrong end.

You can change your own life, you do not need any outside help to take this task on, but it is within each of us to do it for ourselves if indeed we truly want to do it, before anything can be accomplished...you might as well do it now rather than tomorrow, next week or next year. There will not be a good time later to make changes and if you are feeling the need to change or the urge to seek something different then the time to take on the chore is NOW NOT LATER.

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Willing to Win (Part 8)

8. KNOW THAT IT'S OK TO MAKE MISTAKES: You can not fail as a person. Your job can fail, your business can fail, your marriage can go to crap...but you can't fail as a person, this is all changeable and within your control. None of us can ever live up to our own perception of ourselves and we will fall short, in our own minds to our success-failure ratio.

We are going to make mistakes and we need to separate ourselves from who we are to what we do. If we stand back and observe our behavior and note our mistakes we can approach a place where we can change the way we do things and then feel more at ease in knowing that it is OK to make mistakes, if we are willing to learn what went wrong and take the necessary steps to change the path that we were on.

Those that go through life making no mistakes are those that 'tip toed through life, on their way to death safely, they are not doing much out in the world', basically they are dead but just don't have the good sense to lay down...a very boring existence indeed.

Live life in the present moment and live every day as though it were your last, and someday...you will be right. Most people are afraid to die because they have never really lived...their not alive and at the end of their life they are not going to think about the things they did...but rather the things they wanted to do but they didn't do.

How many people do you know that have failed BIG? I know many including myself and if you feel that you cannot accept success until you've failed big and haven't done that yet...then you had better get busy. For if you are participating in life at some point you are going to fail, things are not going to work out all the time for all the people...it just won't happen. You cannot fail as a person, so give up that feeling and learn from what you do and move on with the rest of your life.

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