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5. GIVE UP THE NEED FOR APPROVAL: I may not know all of the secrets to success, but the way to failure is in trying to please everybody...this can't be done. Constantly seeking approval is a self generating attack on your own self worth. If your worth or self esteem has to come from others, you will never have an opinion of your own as to your own worth. Your self worth must be stronger than the rejection of your ideas from others...one cannot gain an inch in life if they must first seek the approval from others...at the end of my life those that liked me will still like me and those that hated me will still be in the line. I cannot change their perception of what and who I am and I will not try to ever win their approval. The ones closest to me and know me and will always be there and that is my safe haven for my contented being.
The trap everyone falls into in trying to win approval is "what will they say if I do this?" This should be of little interest to you for if they think it, they will say it and when we are gone, they will still think and say what they felt and no amount of approval seeking from you or I will ever change their feelings or thoughts. At this moment somewhere I am sure that there are people saying just terrible things about me, and I can accept that and let it go.
Even if we changed the way we are 100% to please those that presently don't agree with our ways...the bad thing is that the ones that like us now, wouldn't be able to stand us then...a no win situation. The only authority figure that we should be concerned with is the one within ourselves. Be happy as an individual and learn from what you do and you will carry this throughout the rest of your life in a more positive nature, within your personal life and the association with others. Think for yourself, do for yourself and accept the credit for the success as well as the failures, but do not try to change your ways to try and please everyone, for then nothing gets done and failure is sure to step in.
Watch out in your life for the 'negative influence of other people'...every group or every organization has a N.I.O.P (ny-op)...they love to be negative and they are the type of person that brightens up a room, the minute they 'walk out of it', the type of person that the bartender asks to leave at 5 o'clock so that they can start the happy hour. You have met these people before, they walk through life with mental malnutrition between their ears...listen to someone like this for 5 minutes and you start believing in retroactive birth control.
You must understand that when you are up and positive, you make others feel ill and the reason is that your positive and alive approach to living, makes their 'deadness' so much more apparent and real. Most people are actually mentally dead but still moving and they have accepted their lot in life without the slightest intention of seeking any changes for the better. We see this negative feeling in people that we are trying to explain our approach to trading and how it works...in their eyes...they are not interested and will do as much as they can to discourage you from trying to improve your position and thus they have not given you the approval and it now is up to you to realize that in their eyes you see only jealousy and envy and the fear which they hold, and the failure of them to improve their own lives, and they, in return will try to prevent you from moving on.
Walk to the beat of only one drummer and that needs to be you...you will never win everyone over and you will never be able to please everyone.
Stay Tuned there is more to come!
Friday, January 29, 2010
Thursday, January 28, 2010
The Will to Win (Part 4)
4. CREATE A FUTURE INSTEAD OF DEFENDING THE PAST: Blaming our current place in life on our parents, our mates, our friends or some historical event in our lives...is a total waste of time and creative energy. Maybe your parents liked your brother or sister better than you, maybe your father was an alcoholic or wanted to be, but never got around to doing it. You may be very well justified in feeling the way that you do, you may be right and everyone else is wrong...but this is all behind you now and you must move on. All that excess baggage of bad past and evil memories will do at present is keep you from moving ahead in your life to attain that which we all so desperately seek to have...the Good life. Nothing that has occurred in our past is ever going to change, it will always be there but we must keep it from causing us to let it rule what we do from this minute on.
Part of being wise is learning from the past and not getting into blaming yourself or anyone else. So, whatever may happen in your life, take a look at it and say to yourself, "what can I learn from this event?"...and then throw away the negative experience and carry it no longer as excess baggage, but keep the lesson that you have learned. Nothing will be accomplished by playing this event over, and over throughout your life...what didn't I do or what can I improve on? and then make that part of your goals for the new year.
Part of being wise is learning from the past and not getting into blaming yourself or anyone else. So, whatever may happen in your life, take a look at it and say to yourself, "what can I learn from this event?"...and then throw away the negative experience and carry it no longer as excess baggage, but keep the lesson that you have learned. Nothing will be accomplished by playing this event over, and over throughout your life...what didn't I do or what can I improve on? and then make that part of your goals for the new year.
Sunday, January 24, 2010
Will to Win (Part 3)
3. TAKE FULL RESPONSIBILITY FOR YOUR LIFE: The starting point to success is being responsible for the quality of your own life. Responsibility means the ability to respond rather than feel victimized…most people when their life’s not working, feel victimized. When I talk to people, I find most will have a VICTIM story…it’s not their fault, somebody is doing it to them…and if you would think this through, there are no victims, but rather just volunteer’s.
The healthy assumption that healthy people make of their life is that they…are responsible for the quality of their life. Responsibility does not mean guilt it just means that consciously or unconsciously I place myself in a situation…but I have the power to change that, but in order to change I must realize that I was responsible for creating it from the start, and great care must be taken not to repeat the same mistakes. This is sort of like complaining about the same lunch everyday to a fellow office worker, and he remarks “Why don’t you have your wife make something else for you”…you answer, “I can’t, I make my own lunch…I’m not married”…We make our own lunch people and the sooner we come to that conclusion, the further along the road to success that we will be.
Sometimes the victim story in our lives comes from ignorance…no one wants to be sick or doesn’t want their relationship to work or doesn’t want to have any money or doesn’t want their business to succeed, if that is happening in your life. then somewhere along your line, you’ve made a decision to experience that…maybe you thought you need it, maybe your punishing yourself out of guilt, we all have a tremendous amount of guilt in our life…maybe you think that’s all you can have or maybe your afraid of success.
I have found over the years that more people are afraid to succeed then to fail. If you ask, most people will tell you the one thing they fear the most is to FAIL…but in actuality the fear of success will be what bothers most people, because when you are a success you can’t be a child anymore, because you will have to be responsible for your life. You’ll get more support in failure than you will in success…when your life doesn’t work, people will crowd around you, like puppies on a cold night and you’ll all get together and tell your victim stories about how it’s not going your way and they’ll say, “yeah, my life’s not working either” and that makes you right in your thinking. This ends up with a big bunch of losers gathering to share their failures…very counter productive way to go through your productive years.
The bad thing that happens is when your life is working…these same people will resent you. They resent you because if you are moving forward, their moving back and their going to resent you for your success…and this is something that you will need to accept in order to attain the success you want.
In order to have anything in life, we must first make it OK to have it before we go after it. You must make it OK inside of yourself first, in order to succeed you have to know that you deserve it and truly want it. Many people on an unconscious level feel that they don’t deserve to succeed and to this end, some will go into the ‘self destruct’ mode and this creates what they feel is a balance in life. You must see yourself as being successful, go for it and keep on the track and know that it is OK for you to be this successful and to ‘have it all’.
If you don’t have what you want in life, you are in for profound ‘despair and you can lie about it and say it doesn’t matter and joke about it, but it really does matter and each one of us wants something and until we get that…we’re going to feel that something is missing in our lives. We must look within ourselves for the answers and until we do…we keep looking outside of ourselves for the answer and it ain’t there kids.
The healthy assumption that healthy people make of their life is that they…are responsible for the quality of their life. Responsibility does not mean guilt it just means that consciously or unconsciously I place myself in a situation…but I have the power to change that, but in order to change I must realize that I was responsible for creating it from the start, and great care must be taken not to repeat the same mistakes. This is sort of like complaining about the same lunch everyday to a fellow office worker, and he remarks “Why don’t you have your wife make something else for you”…you answer, “I can’t, I make my own lunch…I’m not married”…We make our own lunch people and the sooner we come to that conclusion, the further along the road to success that we will be.
Sometimes the victim story in our lives comes from ignorance…no one wants to be sick or doesn’t want their relationship to work or doesn’t want to have any money or doesn’t want their business to succeed, if that is happening in your life. then somewhere along your line, you’ve made a decision to experience that…maybe you thought you need it, maybe your punishing yourself out of guilt, we all have a tremendous amount of guilt in our life…maybe you think that’s all you can have or maybe your afraid of success.
I have found over the years that more people are afraid to succeed then to fail. If you ask, most people will tell you the one thing they fear the most is to FAIL…but in actuality the fear of success will be what bothers most people, because when you are a success you can’t be a child anymore, because you will have to be responsible for your life. You’ll get more support in failure than you will in success…when your life doesn’t work, people will crowd around you, like puppies on a cold night and you’ll all get together and tell your victim stories about how it’s not going your way and they’ll say, “yeah, my life’s not working either” and that makes you right in your thinking. This ends up with a big bunch of losers gathering to share their failures…very counter productive way to go through your productive years.
The bad thing that happens is when your life is working…these same people will resent you. They resent you because if you are moving forward, their moving back and their going to resent you for your success…and this is something that you will need to accept in order to attain the success you want.
In order to have anything in life, we must first make it OK to have it before we go after it. You must make it OK inside of yourself first, in order to succeed you have to know that you deserve it and truly want it. Many people on an unconscious level feel that they don’t deserve to succeed and to this end, some will go into the ‘self destruct’ mode and this creates what they feel is a balance in life. You must see yourself as being successful, go for it and keep on the track and know that it is OK for you to be this successful and to ‘have it all’.
If you don’t have what you want in life, you are in for profound ‘despair and you can lie about it and say it doesn’t matter and joke about it, but it really does matter and each one of us wants something and until we get that…we’re going to feel that something is missing in our lives. We must look within ourselves for the answers and until we do…we keep looking outside of ourselves for the answer and it ain’t there kids.
Saturday, January 23, 2010
Success
Success isn't a result of spontaneous combustion. You must set yourself on fire.
~Arnold H. Glasow
~Arnold H. Glasow
Will to Win (part 2)
2. BE PREPARED TO TAKE RISKS: Be prepared to take risks and to make changes, we must risk in order to grow. The more you get wrapped up into what you have, who your with, where your income comes from or what your doing the more you relate to that person or place or thing as being the source of your good...but, the source of our good is our ideas and we have to be willing to back up our ideas with an expect-able level of risk. If you are not willing to risk then you will definitely not realize your own magnificence. Rewards in life will always be in direct proportion to the risk...No Risk, No Rewards, the more risks that you are willing to take the greater the reward is going to be for you. The biggest risk of all, is NOT RISKING, because if you don't risk you automatically LOSE.
With risk, comes CHANGE and there is nothing more sure in life than change. It is more sure than death and taxes...change is the order in the Universe. As a point of interest mental hospitals are filled with people who are unwilling or unable to except change. In our society one out of three people suffer some form of mental disorder at one time or other in their life...check out your neighbor to the left of your house, then check out the neighbor to the right side of your house...if they look OK, then it is you.
People that don't risk are into security, their whole life is about trying to be safe and secure. The truth here is that if you looking for security then you were born on the wrong planet...there is NO security here...if you give up the need to be secure, you automatically will be secure. The only way for anyone to truly be secure is to turn positive thinking into results and to do this we must make it OK to risk and to make changes.
With risk, comes CHANGE and there is nothing more sure in life than change. It is more sure than death and taxes...change is the order in the Universe. As a point of interest mental hospitals are filled with people who are unwilling or unable to except change. In our society one out of three people suffer some form of mental disorder at one time or other in their life...check out your neighbor to the left of your house, then check out the neighbor to the right side of your house...if they look OK, then it is you.
People that don't risk are into security, their whole life is about trying to be safe and secure. The truth here is that if you looking for security then you were born on the wrong planet...there is NO security here...if you give up the need to be secure, you automatically will be secure. The only way for anyone to truly be secure is to turn positive thinking into results and to do this we must make it OK to risk and to make changes.
Thursday, January 21, 2010
The Will to Win
I am going to be sharing with you a letter I received from a good friend of mine, Darrell Singleton, a piece at a time! Hope that you enjoy!
TO MAKE THINGS HAPPEN IN YOUR LIFE: Of all the living organisms on earth, only the human being was born without a built in software program for success...we all must find it within ourselves to supply that missing piece in order to succeed and how we will do this is through the process of thought. The idea behind this is "If I change the way I think, then I'll change the way I behave"... ideas are thereby created into results. All we have to do is to redirect our thinking to achieve the results we wish to have in our lives.
Ten Things to Remember:
1. CHANGE REASON INTO RESULTS: We should have only two things in our lives...reason and results and reasons DON'T COUNT. So what we need is to learn more about producing the desired results and stop coming up with reasons why we cannot do things. Most of the time people don't have what they want in their life and they justify not having it, by having a barrel full of reasons.
I'd like to be more successful...But...I'd like to meet the right person...But...I'd like to change jobs...But...I'd like to increase my business...But...I'd like to do this or I'd like to do that...But. So in thinking this over carefully, it appears that the only thing that is keeping us from attaining what we want is a big BUTT, and you will most likely discover that it's your butt, and the sooner we get off of the big butt, the sooner you can create that which you want and get your big butt out of the way.
Stay tuned I will be posting the other 9 things to remember later!!!
TO MAKE THINGS HAPPEN IN YOUR LIFE: Of all the living organisms on earth, only the human being was born without a built in software program for success...we all must find it within ourselves to supply that missing piece in order to succeed and how we will do this is through the process of thought. The idea behind this is "If I change the way I think, then I'll change the way I behave"... ideas are thereby created into results. All we have to do is to redirect our thinking to achieve the results we wish to have in our lives.
Ten Things to Remember:
1. CHANGE REASON INTO RESULTS: We should have only two things in our lives...reason and results and reasons DON'T COUNT. So what we need is to learn more about producing the desired results and stop coming up with reasons why we cannot do things. Most of the time people don't have what they want in their life and they justify not having it, by having a barrel full of reasons.
I'd like to be more successful...But...I'd like to meet the right person...But...I'd like to change jobs...But...I'd like to increase my business...But...I'd like to do this or I'd like to do that...But. So in thinking this over carefully, it appears that the only thing that is keeping us from attaining what we want is a big BUTT, and you will most likely discover that it's your butt, and the sooner we get off of the big butt, the sooner you can create that which you want and get your big butt out of the way.
Stay tuned I will be posting the other 9 things to remember later!!!
Wednesday, January 20, 2010
Great Quote!
"Jumping at several small opportunities may get us there more quickly than waiting for one big one to come along." ~Hugh Allen
Friday, January 8, 2010
Open the Door of Opportunity
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Everyone I personally know is starting off 2010 with the thought of creating greater prosperity in their lives.
I just grabbed a position in the fastest growing Pre-Launch I've ever seen. The best part is we're here at the very beginning.
http://bit.ly/8Fc4Fg
I'm actually building my business right now completely for FREE, and so can you (but only for a very limited time).
Sign-up immediately and invite a few people to join us TODAY!
http://bit.ly/8Fc4Fg
Don't get left behind,
Jessica Moffitt
P.S. I guarantee you've never seen this before.
http://bit.ly/8Fc4Fg
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